Stop Spreading Video Scandals

Hi guys. Something happened to my friend lately and sobra na akong worried and stressed because of that. I won’t throw the name because this blog post is not only for her sake but for all the people, both men and women who committed the same mistake.

If you ever come across to any Viral Videos or scandals spreading like a wildfire in social media, please report. Yung panandaliang kaligayahan niyo can ruin everything they have. Stop sharing the pictures and videos. Let’s start a movement to stop this. Sana alam niyo yung nainflict niyong trauma sa biktima. And don’t even reason out na kasalanan ng biktima kung bakit nangyari. Until now, victim blaming padin? Hindi na natututo ang Pilipinas.

It’s not even immoral to have sex, lets just be open minded but yes, they made a mistake of recording it pero it’s even a worse mistake of those who watched the videos at pinagpipyestahan pa, pinaglibugan pa. At mas lalo pang imoral yung nag reupload ng video. Exposing someone’s private property is the worst. And for what reason? Fame? And for those who watched it and said terrible things, mga kung anu-anong kababuyan, you’re worse than pigs. Nagkamali ang biktima, pero mas nakakababa ng pagkatao yang ginawa niyo. Respect lang sana kasi yung iba kung makapag judge, why? You think you’re the better person? Binaboy mo na nga yung tao dahil pinanood mo na, tapos shishare pa yung link instead of helping the person na hindi na lalong kumalat pa.

Please. May mga magsasabi na hindi na dapat kasi vinideohan. Hindi naman kakalat ang isang scandal kung walang magkakalat e. Alam na ngang kumakalat pero mayroon padin mag upload sa page nila. If you think you’re the better person, then prove it, do the right thing. Those videos are not for public eyes kaya sana pag nakita yung link, huwag na pagpiyestahan. Cyberbullying yan and may have tremendous effect on the victim more than what you expect. Nagkamali sila, tao lang sila. I believe that they already learned their lessons. Sharing and watching their vids won’t help. Better yet, help them to stand up again and move on. May emosyon din sila. Sila ang pinaka apektado dito, nasasaktan, nalulungkot. Report the sites that spreads video scandals of people and obscene contents. Nakakalungkot na talaga mga nangyayari lately.

Nationalism?

Many of you have already heard about the misbehavior of Mr. Robin Padilla towards a Korean contestant during the Pilipinas Got Talent last Saturday.

Dahil gusto ni Mr. Bad Boy na Filipino language ang gamitin, I’ll try my best to give my opinion regarding the matter in Tagalog. 

Okay so ang ganap ay pinagalitan ni Robin yung contestant because he can’t speak in Filipino that well. This is why the contestant asked for a favor to communicate with him in English. Na-triggered ngayon si bad boy. Para sa kanya PGT ito, at para utusan siyang inutusan na magsalita on a different language sa sarili niyang bansa. Because of this, he scolded, no, he embarrassed the contestant in front of the national TV. Is that the way to live the Filipino spirit? I think not. Buti na nga lang at nandyan si Ms. Angel Locsin (na crush ko na since her GMA days) and showed sympathy towards the poor guy.

Here’s my say, halos dito na ako sa Pilipinas lumaki, dito na ako nagaral, pero bali-baliktad pa din ang Tagalog sentences ko pag nagsalita and I believe that the language you speak doesn’t define you if you’re a true Filipino or not because what makes us a remarkably true Filipino is our values.

Kaya lang naman ako nagbigay ng saloobin ko dahil may nabasa ako kanina sa Twitter.

Parang tanga. Hindi ko alam kung gaanog kadaming katol na ang nasinghot niya at kung anu-ano ang sinasabi. Hindi nalang mag-apologize e siya naman ang mali.  Like what I’ve said a while ago, what defines you as a person, whether you are a Filipino or not are your values and not your language.

All my life, I’ve been living in a diverse family. Italian-Spanish and a Filipino. Halos lumaki ako sa side ng Filipino fam ko kaya naman naintindihan ko kung ano ang bumubuo sa isang Pinoy or in other words, the Filipino stereotypes. 

Filipinos are hospitable. We are known to show hospitality towards are guests, kahit sino pa yan, we always give a guest a warm welcome whenever they visit our houses. The Korean contestant is our guest. He is from another homeland who came to our’s just to show his talent for our amusement. Did this bad boy showed him hospitality? No. Nationalism ba yan?

Aside from hospitality, Filipinos observes respect. Not only by younger people towards the older, but by people of all ages. Robin embarrassed the guy in front of the national TV just because he can’t speak Tagalog. Man that’s so low. Napaka douche ng pinakita niya. Hindi niya ni-respect yung guy. Yes the guy can’t speak Tagalog and he is joining a Filipino talent show competition, but he has the right to be respected since he is from a different country. Ang sabi nga ni Rizal, “He who does not love his own language is worse than an animal and smelly fish.” but this is for us with Filipino blood and he, as a Korean is not bound to do so. He has his own language that he needs to love or else he’ll be worse than a smelly Korean fish. What’s the point of having English as our universal language para lahat ng bansa mag-unite kung hindi naman gagamitin? Sa isip isip ko hindi lang talaga marunong mag-english tong mokong na to kaya nagalit e.

For me, even though the Korean dude does not speak Tagalog yet na he’ll learn eventually, if he respects other people’s culture, if he shows hospitality towards his guests, if he is helpful and generous, if he has the strong determination to achieve his dreams and most importantly, if he has the ability to love and care, then he has the Filipino spirit. Pwede naman maging simula ang PGT para matuto siya mag-Tagalog. Learning one doesn’t happen overnight, even I can vouch to that. Kaya sana mag-apologize si Robin kasi mali talaga ang inasal niya. Imagine kung mangyari din ang naranasan nung guy sa kababayan natin na nag-audition din sa isang international competition. Pinahiya at binastos din, hindi ba masakit? What Robin showed is not nationalism, it’s just being a jerk.

Random Thoughts #2

Guys, have you encountered or experienced na nagpautang kayo ng money sa ibang tao? Pinautang niyo dahil maya’t maya kung mag text or makulit sa inyo. Yung kahit hating gabi na, tatawag or pupunta dahil kailangang kailangan na daw tapos kapag araw na ng paniningil, daig pa ang na-abduct ng aliens or bigla nalang nawala na parang bula.

Nako talaga guys, I did, I’ve experienced that and sobrang nakaka-gigil talaga. Nakakainis lang kasi na kapag nung time na nangungutang sila, mala angel. Ang babait. Hindi mapuspos ng bait ng tao ang halaga sa kabaitan. Tapos pag sisingilin mo na, aba, nagbago ang ihip ng hangin. Ikaw pa ang masama dahil sinisingil mo na sila, mukhang ikaw pa ‘tong nag gigipit. Ikaw na nagpautang para makatulong, pero wala kang karapatan maningil kahit pera mo naman iyon. Nakakainis diba? Sila pa ang galit e ‘no. 

What’s more, ang lalakas ng loob magbigay ng due date kung kailan daw sila magbabayad. 

“Sa katapusan babayadan kita promise.”

“Sa akinse.”

Tapos pag dating ng due date, nganga. Sa lahat po ng nangungutang pero hindi marunong magbayad, mahiya naman kayo ha? Pera ng nagpautang sa inyo yan, kailangan din nila yan as much as you do. Be the man of your words my friend. At sa lahat ng nagpautang pero hindi naibalik sa kanila kahit utang na loob man lang, ‘wag nalang sana tayo magsawang umintindi.

Random Thoughts #1

December ahh… It’s the time of the year again. Children brings out their homemade tambourines and drums made out of old  empty 1000g of Nestle Nido cans, stretched plastics and good ol rubber bands. Christmas caroling everywhere. So, habang nagda-drive kasi ako kaninang hapon, nung nakahinto ako dahil sa stoplight, may mga batang kumatok sa bintana ng kotse ko. Nangangaroling sila. I was near Blue Wave at that time kasi papunta akong MOA for early shopping ng mga regalo para sa mga inaanak ko. I can tell from their appearances na mga yagit ang mga batang ito kaya naman instead of giving them money (dahil baka iba ang bilhin), I gave them foods to eat. They were delighted from what I’ve given to them, abot tenga nga ngiti nila e. Napangiti din ako kasi nakita kong na-appreciate nila yung binigay ko, althought alam kong hindi sapat yun to give them a full stomach pero nakita ko talaga sa mga  mukha nila napasaya ko sila.

Bigla akong nalungkot nung umalis na ko dahil nag-green na yung stoplight. A thought came into my mind all of a sudden, bakit madaming batang lansangan ang kailangan maghirap? Karamihan pa sa mga batang ito, masasama ang ugali, pero hindi naman nila kasalanan yun e. They were misguided by their fates. Hindi sila nagabayan ng tama kaya sa huli, lumalaki silang barumbado. I believe that they need more help. Yes, the government and some private owned charities are doing their best just to help these street children but it seems like it wasn’t enough. Bakit ba kapag nahuhuli na sila ng authorities, tumatakas pa sila uli para bumalik sa kalye? Siguro dahil ang pagtrato ng nakararami sa kanila ay mababa, kaya mas lalo silang nagiging brats (I can’t think of a proper term but you know what I mean). Maybe, kung lahat tayong nakakaangat sa buhay ay magtulungan to give these children a hand para mailis sila sa kinalalagyan nila ngayon. If we treat them nicely, then maybe, just maybe, it could inspire them. We could bring change to this country if we all lend each other a hand.

It’s sudden but, someday, gusto kong matulungan ang mga batang ito. I still don’t know how or when, but I’ll figure it out for sure.

Wednesday Currently Vol. 04

What’s up blog squad?! I’m baaaaaack! Na-miss ko kayo. No really, I missed you all. It’s been three days since my last blog updates. Blogging here became an important part of my life that by just missing a day without a post, is a day wasted hahaha!

CURRENTLY

Eating my all time favorite, Hany milk chocolate peanut bars. You see I love peanut flavored chocolates, and there was always a tough competition between Reese’s and Hany but at the end of the day, Hany will always win my heart. Nothing beats a childhood sweetheart. So ayun, I actually decided to buy two packs of these because I’m pretty much stress right now. Not because of my health condition, but because of what happened to my daughter this afternoon. You read it just right, I actually have a daughter. Well, she’s not my biological daughter. She’s my goddaughter. I just took custody of her after both her parents passed away. Anak kasi siya ng pinsan ko na matalik ko ding kaibigan. Her mom died after giving birth to her while her dad, my cousin, died not long ago because of sleep paralysis, in short binangungot. As her ninong and as a promise to my late cousin, aalagan ko ang anak niya at ituturing ko nang parang sarili ko. Napamahal na din kasi ako sa bata. Even before na buhay pa Papa niya, “dada” ang tawag sakin ni Hailee. By the way, her name is Hailee Joy Rivera. To cut the story short, the kid treats me as her dad, and I treat her as my daughter.

Napahaba intro ko… What happened kasi kanina, the kid was bullied by a bunch of other kids at the ages of 4 or 5 na walang magawa sa buhay while Hailee was playing in the village playground. Syempre, hindi ko naman pinatulan yung mga bullies kasi they’re at a very young age, pinagsabihan ko lang sila na mali yung ginawa nila. Malumanay lang. Now, the bitch part is when the irresponsible parents of these disrespectful brats came into the scene. Instead of helping me discipline these kids, ako pa masama at wala daw akong pakeelam dahil away bata yun at wala naman daw akong alam sa pagiging magulang kasi pinapalamon pa naman daw ako ng parents ko. At that point of time, gustong gusto ko sumabog. Kumukulo talaga dugo but I know na wala rin naman patutunguan kung makikipag-argue pa ko sa mga matatandang paurong na ‘to. So we just left the playground para wala nang gulo. Pero sa totoo lang, up until now gigil na gigil pa din ako, not with brats, but with their parents. The way they acted earlier was not right and it was a bad example for the kids. I just pray na lumaking maayos mga anak nila. Why do I care anyways? Buhay naman at mga anak naman nila yun. But the next time their kids bully my daughter again, ohhh not my daughter, no more holding back, I’ll put an end to them if they mess with my kid.

Ayun, that’s what happened this afternoon. By the way guys, I’ll be doing another travel blog this coming weekend. I’ll be flying to Puerto Galera. Let us all look forward to it 🙂 Thanks guys!

Wednesday Currently Vol. 03

Ya, minna! Happy Wednesday. I hope you’re doing fine.

CURRENTLY

Confined in Makati Med. I fainted last night after arriving home from school. Good thing that I headed to Malibay instead of Bacoor because I’m all alone there and my whole family are in Malibay. It’s because of the brain tumor that I have right now. It’s not cancer (yet) but it does give one hell of a severe headache which caused me to lose consciousness last night. I just borrowed my Tita’s phone just to make this post because I’m bored. She went outside to talk to the doctor, kaya wala ako kausap dito. 

You know what, I’m still wondering, how am I still alive? Don’t get me wrong, of course I’m happy that I am but with two diseases, my in-born heart condition and now this brain tumor, I’m just too blessed. Puso at isip talaga ang diperensya, kaya lagi akong sawi sa pagibig e. Hahahah! Nakuha pa humugot. I’m not yet losing my wit lol! But with all these pain (it’s too painful if you ask me), I don’t know how much time I have. But I’m still happy. In my heart, I am rejoicing. I may be at a young age to go through all of these but because of what’s happening right now, I felt the overwhelming love my family and of my closest and realest friends. And that they will always have my back no matter what. They give me all the strength I need in order to surpass this storm. I’ll be forever grateful that I have them in my life. And of course, I like to extend my gratitude to all of you guys. I may not know you all personally but you make me happy. Every time you like a post or as simple as viewing one of them at least, makes my day. So let me take this opportunity to tell you this: Thank you. For everything. You’re an amazing person.

Hoy, I’m not saying goodbye ha! Like I’ll let myself get down that easily. I’m a gamer, I don’t die, I respawn. HAHAH! I’m saying that I might have a rough time in the next few days. kaya baka puro kabaduyang madadramang posts ang sa mga susunod na kabanata. Baka lang naman. 

Thanks guys. Stay awesome, everyone!

 

Tuesday Currently Vol. 06

Ciao blog squad! Come stai? I hope you guys are doing well. Me? Malissimo! Why? Because I didn’t get enough sleep last night. The thing is, whenever I write something, my mind becomes active causing me to lose sleep. Non mi posso lamentare anyways, ganto na talaga ako e hahaha! 

CURRENTLY

Decided to play basketball at around 5:30 AM. I’m in our village here in Cavite. What a great way to start off your day (even without sleep), keep up the sweat and move your muscles. In-fairness mga bros, masarap pala mag bball ng sobrang aga. Yun nga lang wala akong kalaro kanina. Ang corny. 

After that, medyo inantok na din ako. I took a shower and hit the sack, that was around quarter to 7 AM I think. Guess what, I only had 30 minutes of sleep. Thanks to kuya Renz for calling me early in the morning just to say that he’s in front of my gate. He traveled from Pasay to Cavite for one reason, for his flash drive that he left in my house during my 21st birthday celebration. That’s how important the files inside that flash drive lol. Well great, there goes my sleep. So up until now, wala pa akong tulog. Dahil naistorbo na din ako, hindi na ako makakabalik sa wonderland. I will just finish writing this one and then cook for some food. Now that I mentioned it, I haven’t ate a proper breakfast pa wews. Tapos baka mag DOTA ako hahah! 6pm pa naman klase ko e, at sana nga meronkasi last night, hindi nanaman natuloy ang make-up class. For pete’s sake guys, sayang ang tuition fee dahil hindi kami gaanong nakakapag klase. 

So ito ako ngayon, bangag na bangag hahah! I wonder what should I cook for breakfast… Gusto ko sana tocino kaso wala akong stock. Mukhang mauuwi ako sa hotdog at pancake hehe. Good enough 🙂

Siguro yan muna. Thanks guys. Have a great day!

Friday Currently Vol. 04

Hello weekend! Finally, it’s about time to escape from overwhelming workloads for at least 2 days, 3 nights. So. How are you going to spend your free time this weekend? Promise it to yourself to make the most out of it hahah! I mean, it’s your only time to relax.

CURRENTLY

I exhaled the smoke hoping to lose the demons that danced in my head. Don’t worry, I’m not a chain smoker, I only smoke whenever I’m emotionally stressed and that’s how I am right now. You see, on my previous post, I told you about my current situation with one of my best pals. I wouldn’t drop her name but she’s one of my best friends. Aside from Nics, she’s my other childhood girl best friend. We hang out almost everyday together with her twin brother, but most of the time, it’s only the two of us. We usually go to activities that if we were couples, you can consider them as romantic dates; watching movies together, going to coffee shops, fine dining in a restaurant, playing staring contest, teasing each other, and so on and so forth.

I never gave meaning to all of these. For me, we’re just best friends. She’s one of the boys and the way she act, she’s more of a dude than a girl (she’s even more manly than I am). Kaya naman nagulat ako when she confessed her feelings with me. That she loves me more than just a friend. Well, she didn’t confessed intentionally. It was all accidental.

We were on the road when that happened. I picked her up from her friend’s party. I was driving her home and she’s sleeping in the passenger seat. Maybe because of alcohol (and she’s drunk), she talked on her sleep.

“Evian mahal na mahal na kita…”

It was gibberish but it was clear. Nagulat ako. Everything became clear to me. All her efforts of fixing my car every time na nasisiraan ako (It was a win-win situation, she fixes my car, I drive her home hahah), when she cooked me my favorite food even though she doesn’t really cook, and everything she does for me that she doesn’t do before ay parang panliligaw.

Please don’t judge me. Hindi ako gwapo, at mas lalong hindi ako choosy. Yes she’s pretty lalo na kung magaayos, mabait and she’s a long-time best friend but that doesn’t mean na porket may gusto na sa akin yung tao e papatulan ko na, lalo na’t hindi ko pa alam kung ano nararamdaman ko para sa kanya. The truth is, oo nagka-crush ako sa kanya before, but when we became close to each other, nawala yung feeling na yun. And right now, I still don’t know what to answer her question.

“Evian, maging honest ka, may pag-asa bang maging tayo?”

That’s her question when I confronted her the next morning. Instead of making stories and lies, she became vocal to me and told me the truth that she is indeed fallen in love with me. She asked me that question but I answered that I still don’t know.

Guys naguguluhan na talaga ako. I don’t want to lose my friend. I don’t want to lose her in my life. I don’t know if I like her or not. What if I feel this somehow liking her just because she confessed her feelings to me? Doesn’t it mean that I’m just taking advantage of her or taking her for granted? Or what If I don’t really feel the same? Na hindi ko siya gusto? It’s going to hurt her. I don’t want any of these to happen. All I want is for her to stay with me, because I’m happy whenever I’m with her. Losing her is like losing a part of me.

In the end. I’m still unsure of what’s the right answer.

 

Monday Currently Vol. 03

Heyaa amazing people! How was your Monday? Stressed in work or at school? No worries, November is almost over, Christmas vacation is coming! On the other hand, here I am, still tolerating this effin sweet hangover from last night’s project x party. Tapos may lagnat pa ko. Every year on my birthday, hindi talaga ako nawawalan ng sakit. Lagnat laki lang?

CURRENTLY

About my mom’s birthday this coming November 26, I don’t know what to get for her. She’s not materialistic, so I’m thinking about cooking for her which I know, she’ll definitely love. The thing is I’m in the Philippines and she’s in Japan. Her birthday falls on Sunday so I’m thinking about flying there but I’m running short in budget. I have enough for one way trip for both me and my lil sis, but wala na akong pabalik hahah! Ayoko namang manghingi ng pamase kay Mama para makauwi kami. Kaarawan niya yun e. As much as I want to celebrate her special day with her in Japan, mukhang hindi talaga kaya ng bulsa ko. It’s been years since the last time we spent her birthday together. Every December or early summer na din kasi kami nakakaluwas sa lugar namin sa Japan. Dibale, babawi nalang ako paglipad namin doon this coming December. Ako magluluto ng noche buena namin para sa pasko hehehe!

For now, I hope magustuhan niya yung special letter na ginawa ko for her. Nagpasuyo ako sa isang kaibigan ni mama (na ninang ko) na dalin yung letter ko sa Japan since uuwi na itong si Ninang doon this coming November 22. I also informed her to give it to my mom on the day of her birthday. Usisera din kasi itong si madir, pag binigay agad sa kanya yung letter, hindi na aabot yun sa mismong birthday niya hahaha! Babasahin niya agad. I decided to make it the old fashion way. Para kasing mababawasan yung substance ng letter kung virtually ko ipapadale e. Maganda na din yung nasa card talaga. I hope magustuhan ni mama yun kasi aside from the letter, wala na akong ibang gift sa kanya kasi hindi ko talaga alam gusto niya for her birthday. I’ll be posting the letter here in my blog din on 26.

Wellllllll…. How about a video presentation? Nagui-guilty kasi talaga ako na yun lang ang gift ko e. I’m having second thoughts whether to create vlog greeting for her (from relatives and closest friends) or not. Oh wait! That’s right! I’ve decided. I’ll definitely make one hell of a video greetings. It’ll be the first time na bibigyan ko siya ng ganitong regalo. Mahilig din naman ako mag-video at i-edit ito. I’m Evian, and I’m addicted in recording everything hahaha! Joke! Nakuha ko sa mom ko yung ugali kong mababaw na kaligayahan kaya naman umaasa akong magugustuhan niya itong ire-regalo ko sa kanya. Simpe gifts for the most extraordinary woman in my life.

Anyway guys, may you all have a great week ahead. You may experience some big challenges in your life, but remember, you are serving a bigger God.

21 and over

It’s my 21st birthday! Finally, I’m a certified adult now! Oh wait, isn’t that bad? Doesn’t it mean that life will be giving you more responsibilities? Meeeeh.

I’m living for 21 years now, ang tanda ko na, but  for me, I am still a child. I am still curious about the silliest things. I am still afraid when people ask me what I want in life because honestly, I don’t know what I want in life. Everything perhaps? Everything that I want to accomplish in life for as long as I can. Ha! Too ambitious! Being 21 years old, I can’t help myself from being scared of what lies beyond the future. Nasa tamang edad na ako para maging independent. I’m aware that I wouldn’t be swimming in smooth water but rather, a harsh one. But I’m ready to dive in and swim against the current. That’s how I was raised by my family.

Okay enough with poetic words. Ang celebration ko lang ay napaka simple. Just a simple gathering. Ayoko nang uminom or magwalwal. Okay na sa akin yung dinner lang para makatipid na din. Besides, mas marami pa akong kailangan pagkagastusan sa pangaraw-araw. Kasama ko lang magcecelebrate yung family ko ofcourse and yung iba kong childhood friends and pinsan na ka-close. Yung mga MAPUAN friends ko kasi e hindi talaga pwede gawa ng Sunday ngayon. Their families should come first. I could set a different day to celebrate with them naman para hindi makaabala sa kanila. 

Pero hindi ba sabi ko naman sa inyo, wala nang inom inom? Wala din naman akong kawala doon. Ito kasing si Kuya Renz ang pasimuno. October palang pinaghahandaan na yung mga alak pang 21 shots daw. Naging tradition na din naming magtotropa magmula nung nag-debut si Kuya Nathan, ginagawa yun, kaya yung mga sumunod e wala nang choice kundi sundin ang tradisyon hahah! 

Kung tutuusin, sobrang rush na ang pagsasagawa ng 21st birthday celebration ko. Grabe, sobrang bigat ng pinagdaanan ko throughout the preparation. I’ve became so melodramatic over some things. My tito scolded me every night. Blaming me for not doing anything. Aba matindi! Matindi talaga. Sa isip isip ko bakit pa kailangan paghandaan yan, ano ko babae? So napagpasyahan ko ayusin nalang for a pool party.

Also, my friends always asked me, “Bro gusto mo ba talagang magdebut party?” “Perahin mo nalang.” I honesty don’t want to have a debut party. Medyo nababaduyan kasi ako. The factthat it’s once in a lifetime experience made me refuse that thought, “Dadating din ako diyan, magkaka-pera din naman ako sa trabaho soon.” I told myself, Which is true! If we could celebrate our debut (for both boy and girls) party 5 or 10 years after, why not diba? Kaso hindi, it’s either you go for it or not. Opportunity yan hindi lang halata hahah! Not all boys are fortunate enough to have a fancy 21st celebration. Yung iba nga masaya na sa isang cake at bote ng empi lights, sino ako para tanggihan ang magarbong celebration na hindi naman ako nagaayos?  Kalalakeng tao pabebe hahah!

So there you go guys, my 21 years old self’s thoughts for today. Happy birthday to me. And to all who’s celebrating their birthday today, happy birthday to you all. God bless you!